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I’m not good enough for my boyfriend?

So, I recently bought some new Victoria’s Secret lingerie and wore it for my boyfriend on his birthday the other day. He seemed like he was really into it and thought I was sexy as hell, but last night when I came home after work, he had some of his friends over, and I overheard him say something like: “I don’t know why she buys lingerie like that. She’ll never look like one of those models.” He doesn’t know that I heard him say that. I’m so hurt by it and feel like I’m not good enough for him. I would never say something like that about him. He’s the sexiest, most perfect guy in the world to me. I wish he saw me the same way. Idk if I should just brush this under the carpet or confront him about it. Are all guys like that? Do they all compare their girlfriends to super models?

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Almost everybody here is telling you to move on or dump him for just putting his foot in his mouth. And that is no way to be in a relationship because then you’ll be dumping every guy you come across who says something you don’t like or something that offends you. Honey, relationships are supposed to have ups and downs and both people in relationships will offend/say something hurtful at some-point in the time you date each other, it’s not worth dumping them over, but what is worth it is working though situations like that. The amount of relationships that fail over misunderstandings and misinterpretations or being oversensitive about things the other said when they could easily be resolved if both people work things out is appalling.For everyone here who is making him seem like a jerk, most women in relationships talk to their friends about their boyfriends/husbands and sometimes its personal, private and tmi too but somehow this girls boyfriend is the ultimate dick though. So many petty people out here. -_- Yeah he could have came to you and expressed how he feels about you wearing lingerie, however even if he did do that you’d still feel hurt and offended so it wouldn’t make a difference. Though what he said can be open to interpretation, like when he was talking about you wearing lingerie and that you won’t look like them models, that doesn’t necessarily mean he prefers models to you, maybe he feels like you’re trying too hard to be sexy for him when he probably already finds you sexy in whatever you wear and that may be what he was meaning when talking to his friends, you go a long way in a relationship when you want to understand the other person. It’s very easy to jump to conclusions, get offended, and then not give him the chance to explain what he means, so perhaps you could talk to him in private and let him know you over heard him. Let him explain to you what he meant by that as I am sure he didn’t say it to be a jerk or hurt your feelings. To me it just seems like people on here are telling everyone to dump each other like it’s the best solution you can give just because a boyfriend or girlfriend were being a bit of a dick. You dump someone when there is a valid reason, like being cheated on, not having anything in common anymore, or being abused. The amount of people and their shitty advice is what is bringing down other people’s relationships.... Show More
I think that you should talk to him , tell him that you were hurt by what he said, and if you want the relationship to stop, dump him. just remember, that if he describes your lingerie to his friends. And then criticizes you and comes home and tells you he loves you, then he’s a bad guy. Peace out. Sincerely Peep.... Show More
Some good answers already. He was grossly disrespectful to comment what you heard. Move on, you deserve better. You both were intimate friends and now it’s lame excuse if he says you are overweight.... Show More
You and all the females who complain about their stupid bad boyfriends. Is all your fault for accepting to be his girlfriend. THATS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU TURN DOWN THE GOOD GUYS.... Show More
Its the other way around he is not good enough for you if he cared then you would look better than the models because to him you are the most beautiful woman in the world If we do compare the models come off second bestDump him and find someone who does care about you... Show More
He is just an asshole, you should leave him and get a guy that appreciates you!... Show More
Why would he even tell his fiends that you wore lingerie for him? That’s supposed to be something private between the two of you. What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom, you don’t tell your friends about itHe sounds like a jerk. And yes, he doesn’t think you are good enough if he made a comment like that. A guy who loved you would have said you were hot and sexy. And he wouldn’t be putting you down to his friendsI would dump him if he doesn’t appreciate you... Show More

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