How can I encourage my girlfriend to gain weight?

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Lately, my girlfriend, whom I’ve been dating for over a year, has gained approximately 30 pounds since we first started dating. To my surprise, I actually appreciate the weight she’s gained. She feels much softer when we cuddle, and the extra weight around her stomach makes me want to hold her even more. However, I know she is not happy with her noticeable weight gain. Today, while we were out shopping, she tried on a tight shirt and said it made her look fat. She expressed her frustration about gaining weight and mentioned that she can no longer wear certain types of clothes. I could see that this made her sad, and I felt guilty for enjoying her larger frame. She told me that she needs to go to the gym since we haven’t been in a while and plans to work extra hard this week. My question is: should I encourage her to maintain her current weight and help her see that she is beautiful as she is, or should I support her in her desire to lose weight?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I see what you mean about well everything you described, but as your boy-friend you should do what’s best for her. You should help her see the beauty in herself and that outward appearance doesn’t matter, but at the same time still encourage her to lose weight. It’s healthier and it actually lengthens her life span. It’s good that you’re considering both sides of the “coin”, so to speak, but it’s best to take what’s best from both sides. You seem like a pretty good guy and enjoy what you can with your girlfriend, but to convince her that she is beautiful on the inside and that outward appearance doesn’t matter too much then you have to convince yourself fully, and be subtle about encouraging her to lose weight. I hope for the best for you and have a great life okay? ð IM me if you have any other questions or just to talk, cya.

Anonymous · Answer

I know her weight makes you happy but you also have to be aware that her weight does not make her happy. After all, at the end of the day she needs to be happy with herself. You could tell her that she doesn’t necessarily need to lose weight, but rather tone, that way she fits in more clothing. Express that you don’t find anything wrong with her current figure.

Anonymous · Answer

wow thats a first im glad u like her even with weight gain id tell her that u think shes so beatiful no matter what weight she is & tell her she isnt fat

Anonymous · Answer

Respect her for whatever makes her feel good about herself but let her know that at the same time you love her and her body.

Anonymous · Answer

Every girl want her to be slim and beautiful, I think you gf  should not want to be fat. You want her to be fat, that is your willing, if you like her you should want her happy, so don’t be so selfish to deprive her right of being slim and beautiful. In my own opinion, as long as she is healthy, you should support her to be slim and beautiful.

Anonymous · Answer

I think that you should encourage her to do whatever she wishes to do, and just support her with what ever she wants, and tell her that she’s beautiful either way.

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