I’m 13 and really want a baby-why?

Hi hunny I am 21 and I wanted a baby since I was 13 desperatly but only now am I trying for one I no 21 is still young but when I look back at the amount of life I lived since I was 13 listen to me hunny you dont want to throw all them years away away to just be a kid and grow up with ur friends..wait a couple years and look back and u will understand..trust me I know what I am talking about darling

When I was younger about 13 or 14 I went though a phase where I constantly had pregnant dreams and thought about having a baby too. I knew I didn’t REALLY want a baby and certainly wasn’t about to do anything sexual with a boy at that point. It confused me but with some time it passed. I think it was just a mixture of new hormones (from puberty) and recently leaning about sex and conception (from school lessons). If you think about it it would only be natural for women to have a desire to have kids after puberty like it’s an instinct, but that doesn’t mean you should have kids right away. I say you should try to just shrug it off and continue with your baby-free plan. It will pass like it did with me. I’m glad you’re not going to act on these desires yet.

I love babies, too. I always have, ever since I can remember. But in all seriousness, I had my first son when I was sixteen and my second when I was 17. And let me tell you something, you should wait. The best thing you can do is wait to have sex and wait for a perfect long term adult relationship to even begin thinking about a family of your own. It is the responsible and un-selfish thing to do. Afterall, having a child isn’t about you. It’s about what’s in the best interest of the child. And what’s in the best interest of the child is to be born into a stable and appropriate environment. Please focus on being the amazing person that you are right now, and take your time and be smart about planning your future too soon. You’re so young. I’m sure some day many many many years from now you may make an excellent mother, but right now you have the world at your fingertips and making hasty choices too young can make that world much smaller, much faster than you could ever imagine.

You are feeling unhappy and unloved, clearly. What you need toi do is to focus on other things – your family, friends, schoolwork, music, sport or whatever. These feelings will pass eventually, but you do have to replace the baby thoughts with others.

We older types often wish we hadn’t taken ourselves and everything quite so very seriously during our short teen years, because they are a period of emotional change and discovery – everything changes! The important things are to develop self respect and emotional self sufficiency and to work on your values and qualities such as integrity. Also ensure that you have no unnecessary fear (False Evidence Appearing Real!). WE CAN decide about our changes by practising in our minds the kind of person we wish and intend to be. People respect those who walk tall, whatever their height, so always ensure you have a straight back, whether sitting, standing or walking. This helps our self esteem.

Things go in seven year cycles: infancy till seven, childhood to fourteen and adulthood around 21. Naturally people differ, and the ages merge into each other like the seasons do, but it continues to an extent: many women aren’t too mature until late 20s and a lot of men don’t even start to grow up until their mid thirties (I was one!).

Do remember that adolescents’ emotions are in a state of flux and constantly changing – some more than others, obviously.

ALL parents have been teenagers and can be taken back to their teenage feelings without anger. That said, no one person can ever completely understand another (except identical twins, perhaps): we all come from slightly different places and have different experiences of and takes on life. Hence nobody can judge us with any accuracy.

Doing things for others without asking for anything in return, such as voluntary work is a key here (what goes around DOES come around eventually).

Good Luck, Girl!! :o)

Hi, I’ll try and help explain why you feel this way. I’m 14 and at 13 I felt the same way. Some girls like you and me are meant to be a mom. It doesn’t mean go out and get pregnant. It just means your going to be a good mom. You have the instinct. Some girls have it and others don’t. Don’t worry much about it, just don’t get pregnant. I hope I helped, and maybe you can get a job as a baby sitter.

ow my god please dont, babies are so hard, think about it all that nappy changing, waking up in the middle of the night and feeding it, the clothes changing, the crying and vomiting, babies take up so much time money and energy, u should talk to teen mums and they will tell u how hard it is. Grow up, get an education, a job, try and find the right person then have a baby, try and babysit or look after your relatives children for the day, then u will understand how hard it is.

I’m 15. I’ve had this problem for 4 years. The feeling never goes away. Babysitting or getting a pet doesn’t work… I’ve tried. But just think about the life and future for your child if you have one now and then think about if you have a baby when your older. I’m pretty sure it’d have a better life and future if you wait. X

DO NOT DO SOMETHING ABOUT THAT DESIRE. you’ll regret it. oh and why do you want one?

one word honey: hormones. babysit, play with little kids, but don’t make the mistake of being just another statistic, a knocked up teen. you won’t find getting up every 2 hrs exciting when you actually have to do it. i was 10 when that was happening with my younger sister and it was not fun. at all. you don’t know what you’d be getting yourself into, and you’re not ready. if you truly cared about babies, you wouldn’t have one.

EDIT: i’ve had 2 dreams where i was pregnant…just a little tidbit lol it happens to all of us ? just ignore it and move on.

I think a lot of girls at this age really want a baby, and it’s normal to feel that way. But you have to realize all the things you go through mentally, physically and financially to have and care for a baby. And good luck finding a guy at your age that will want to have a baby. Guys just want to play video games and sports and date chicks casually (well most of them)

A girl in my grade (freshman) had a baby 2 days ago and her boyfriend left her when he found out a few months ago. He’s now with some other chick and the girl has to raise the baby by herself with her family. I feel bad for her because we used to be friends, but she was stupid enough to get pregnant at this age.

THINK ABOUT YOUR FUTURE. 😛

hmph. Please, you dont want a baby. Its your freakin hormones.

You cant handle a baby, honestly, if you want truth, youre probably gonna look back and realize in 5 years anyways but right now,youre an ignorant unstable naive little girl. Doesnt matter what you believe cause thats what you are.

Toget it out your system, id suggest you masterbate. No im not kiding and im not some boy trying to be a little *** but honestly, to get it out your system and help you mature, its probably to best thing to do .

But if not, analyze the situation, you cant handle a baby at this age and youre gonna have to accept it .