My fiancé want to pospone the wedding…..again?

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First time, he said we shouldn’t be hasty. Now, he’s saying he’s not ”emotionally ready” yet. I’m starting to think he will never be ready. What should I do?

Rose Schowalter · Accepted Answer

Don’t postpone, cancel it completely. He’s stalling (for a second time) which indicates he’s not ready to marry.

Rose Schowalter · Answer

He is actually telling you he is not ready to get married. Listen. Give the ring back. Being engaged means you are ready to set a date and plan the wedding.

Rose Schowalter · Answer

As the saying goes, “Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me”.

Rose Schowalter · Answer

I am going to be straight with you and have a simple answer.Your “fiancé” is not ready to get married. Give him his ring back and ask him to return it to you when he is ready to propose and mean it. In the meanwhile, I suggest you make plans for your future without considering him. If you live with him, move out. He clearly does not consider you marriage material. Wake the ef up. I dare you.

Rose Schowalter · Answer

Trust your instincts. You know him and the situation better than we could. trust your gut. Postponing one time could happen but twice? He is now saying he is not emotionally ready? Yet he proposed to you? I say he did that to shut you up about getting married I do not think he is ever going to be “ready” If he is not emotionally ready now, will he ever be? Do you nee that in your life? My best advice would be to cut your losses and move on. I think you are in for a long frustrating wait for him to be “ready” and it still might not ever happen. Look how many women post here at Answers talking about how they have been waiting 2,5,10 years and more for their man to be “ready”. Do you need that in your life?

Rose Schowalter · Answer

Ask him how much time he needs. If he cant give you a definitive time, its a stall tactic. Time for you to give him a specific amount of time that youll wait or either end engagement.

Rose Schowalter · Answer

Sorry, but he doesn’t want to get married and likely never did.What you really need to do is have a very open and honest conversation with him about your future, but be prepared for answers you don’t want to hear. If being married is important to you and it’s not what he wanted then you’re not compatible since you want different things in life. That tells you he’s not the one and he never was.When my husband proposed that very night he asked me what kind of wedding I wanted and when I wanted to do it. Two weeks later after comparing dates with our families, we had a date set and put down the deposits on our venues.

Rose Schowalter · Answer

You need to have more/deeper conversations about what ’emotionally ready’ means to him, how he thinks to come there and how long he expects to need for this. Talking about it in more details will give you a better idea about his intentions, his fears, etc and will tell you where you stand. It probably is the only way forward because both of you know what you’re in for (and what not) and what it will look like. Only fair considering you’re talking about spending your life together for a long time, don’t you think? So talk about it some more so you get some clarity and can make your decisions based on this.

Rose Schowalter · Answer

What makes you think you have a fiance?

Rose Schowalter · Answer

Delay is much better than divorce. Some people run into the flame even though they sense something is wrong. At least, your fiance is deliberate. Is there any reason that you have to marry within a certain period of time? Take your time.

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