Why do other women get so upset that my husband spoils me?

Maybe because it seems like you are kind of full of yourself and bragging. I am not jealous of you in the least because all those things he is spoiling you with don’t mean a whole bunch. My boyfriend spoils me with things as well but they are meaningful things just for me and he spoils me with his time and his affection and would absolutely do anything and everything in his power to make me happy. If all you have between you and your husband is the fact that he buys you things then I would honestly feel sorry for you. Honestly it is sad that in this day and age a woman can be that useless and not try to better herself.

What a vapid life.

I don’t think women are jealous of you, I think they are disgusted. Doesn’t your life have purpose? Don’t you want to be more than a girl who hangs out at the spa all day? When you were little, didn’t you want to grow up and BE someone? Don’t you want to impact your community, even a little?

What you are describing is sheer laziness. There are plenty of women who don’t work and live off their rich husbands who exit the spa and do a little philanthropy here and there. But you’re just … lazy. That’s great you went to school and know what hard work is. But, gah, don’t you WANT to be more than this?

And please, don’t edit this and say you do a lot of volunteer work or charity work, blah, blah, blah. That’s a lie. Your whole post is about how you DON’T do anything all day. Every day.

Man, I do not envy you. I may not be rich, but when I get home everyday, I at least feel like I helped my community. I may not have a pedicure, but I have a purpose.

I guess money really can’t buy you everything. Enjoy your hot tub.

If you are an independent person and have a degree in psychology, try to talk to your husband and see if he will allow you to look for a job. The reason other people make faces at you is because they work hard every single day, and you are fortunate enough to not have to. Personally, I am overjoyed that my wife has a job. Work creates a special kind of “drive” which has been proven to improve someone’s overall attitude toward life. My wife and I could retire right now (not even 40 years old yet) but we still work for the satisfaction of getting something done.

I feel the same way you do. Except it doesn’t bother me (much). I do think it’s because they are jealous but they won’t admit it. They probably don’t have a good relationship themelves so they get mad at you because you are “lucky”. But that’s just bull. I work very hard on my relationship to keep it this great and I bet you do too. They think you just stumbled into a great guy when they have gone through other things like cheating or divorce and you don’t deserve him because you’ve “had it easy your whole life”. But what do they know?

What I do is just say nothing. If they ask me how things are going I just say fine. Once I told my friend that my hubby brought me flowers and she responded with, “stop rubbing it in my face” I got mad because I had never mentioned he did that and he does it quite often. Imagine if I let her know every time he did something nice for me, she would have slapped me! lol

People like that also seem to blame their bad relationship with things like “but you have money and we don’t, so it’s stressful” That’s bull too. I bet if you didn’t have much money, you would still have a great realationship. I know that recently we were broke and we were still great.

When they ask what you have done, just say something common and vague like, “oh we went out to eat” You don’t have to mention where or something in particular that happened. Just don’t go into details. Unless they get bitchy and start thinking they are better than you. Has that ever happened to you? IDK about you, but we don’t pay attention to holidays like Valentines day or Christmas. I could care less if I got a present on those days. I’m not materialitic and I would rather him spend the day with me at a park doing nothing than him buying me something. So when I mentioned we did didn’t celebrate Vday, they immediately jumped in their high horse and said I was weird and that theirs brought them roses and blah blah blah. I felt kind of bad for them because they get treated nice once or twice a year whereas I’m treated nice every day and not because he has to. So don’t get angry that they are jealous, just feel happy that you are not on the other side. I hope I helped and didn’t ramble too much. I tried to keep it short.

Maybe you could keep friends by doing something useful with your time instead of getting mani’s and pedi’s and sitting in the hot tub drinking wine and reading. Since you are fortunate enough to not have to work then you should do volunteer work and that way when you meet your friends you have something more to talk about than your recent manicure or hairdressing appointment. I think your friends make the face not because they are upset your husband spoils you but the fact that your life apparently revolves around you. Do something constructive and useful with your time.

It is exactly because of Jealousy. It sounds to me like you got a great Husband who loves you and cares for you. Maybe they don’t. Maybe they think your just bragging. Next time they ask you what you day has been like don’t include all the great things you did, but just say “I made dinner and cleaned the house” and maybe did a few other things. That way it doesn’t seem like you are bragging.

They aren’t jealous – they are probably feeling sorry for you because most guys who spoil women like that are controlling. He doesn’t want you to have a life – he wants you to be completely dependent on him, it’s a power trip. These men are the ones who end up leaving their trophy wives for a younger woman as soon as they hit their mid-30s. Have you ever heard of a man completely spoiling a wife over age 40? No, because he’s already left her for a younger version by then. And what are you going to do then? You won’t have any current work experience or skills that will make you marketable. And why does anyone want to be 100% financially dependent on another person?

All I can say is, when you no longer have him you are going to be lost. I just don’t understand why any one would not want to contribute to life. How boring your life must be. I am not saying this out of jealousy or anything of the such. I just can’t imagine my life with no purpose or meaning. Maybe you should tell your friends how empty your life is even with all these things your husband bestows upon you. I just feel that God has put us on this earth and it is a gift and we should find purpose the life that was given to us.

Im jealous of you and angry and i don’t even know you!

Just be considerate of your friends that have to put up with crappy jobs, come home, clean, cook all just to get by.

Maybe treat your friends to a weekend at a spa.

Either that – or get new friends that live a similar life.

Women can be naturally jealous of things. Maybe you should pick and choose who you tell what too…or maybe you need some new friends who are not jealous and have the same things going on in their world.