Why would my ex’s sister contact me out of the blue?

You see, when we get serious with someone we let them into our families and those families become attached… so when there is a break up not only does the couple feel horrible, so do the families, its like a death for them too. It sounds like his family is upset and have chosen to keep contact with you because they care about you… they were probably hoping he would come to his senses… so they left it alone for awhile… but he is still away from you and they miss you so the sister broke the ice. I am also sure they are embarassed that their blood did this to you….. I am sure they have met the woman he is seeing and probably dont approve…. but because hes blood they will go along with it…. but they decided that just because he isnt with you, doesnt mean they arent going to stay in contact. I suggest you email her back, keep it brief, thank her for contacting you and tell her you miss her and the family. Say you will call her mom but explain its a bit awkward for you considering the circumstances…… and go from there. Dont tell them you still want your ex back….. just keep things light and tell them your faring well and have some new things in your life to look forward to (and do find something new to preoccupy your time, its healthy). Dont read this as they are getting involved in trying to get him to take you back, take this as a genuine caring for you and they dont want to lose you. what he does remains to be seen…… I stayed friends with my exes parents and brother for years until they all died….. I was at the hospital when his father died (we were split for four years at this point but I was called), missed his mothers death as I was out of town and his brother just died last year… i couldnt be there but I sent flowers…. we have been split since 95…. he moved on and so did I but I never stopped loving his family, they were good to me and loved me like a daughter…. it never bothered my ex at all… whether or not it bothered his girlfriends he never said, we never went there….. he understood the bond and most likely explained it to his girlfriends. Knowing him, he wouldnt care what they thought… one of the main reasons he and I split… he didnt care what I thought about anything either.

I think it would be unwise. Simply because you are not together with him anymore and if he ever brings another girl into the scene, it will just be awkward. I don’t understand why he introduced you to the family if he didn’t follow through with the relationship. I mean, when you introduce someone to the family it is because you want to stick with them.

I believe you shouldn’t be making hopes around this…. It is just too soon to think about contacting the family, after only three months. And he even has someone else…. so soon.:(

I feel for you, and I know you like them, but just ignore the letter. It will just hurt you if you happen to see him or anybody mentions him. Wounds are still open and it is unwise of you to throw yourself like that into more hurt.

I hope you can be happy 🙂 Just try to forget about this guy, somebody that comes out so lightly from a relationship of 7 years is not worth it.

Hug!

I think it’s a good sign. I’m also thinking that maybe they are realizing that this new woman is not good for him and they are wanting to keep you around because you were. Talk to the sister and give their mom a call if you still love the guy and have hope for a future with him, otherwise it’s best to send her a short reply thanking her and telling her that you hope to get a chance to speak to them soon…you know something light like that. Good luck.

I still see my exes family, of course his brother has been one of my best friends for most of my life. And my hubby is good friends with ex and his father, they go hunting together.

Could be that the family loves you and misses you.

they’re not your family, they’re his

no need to contact his mom. after 7 years I am sure she has YOUR number and would call you if she really missed you.

move on and find friendship with your new man and his family

Don’t call his mother, let her call you. Don’t ask about the guy either. He probably put her up to it, just to see if you would inquire about him.