My boyfriend spent the night with his ex-girlfriend! please HELP?

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Ok about 4 wks ago I found out that my boyfriend of 2 1/2 yrs spent the night at a hotel with his daughters and there (mom) he wasn’t answering his calls or text on the night that this happened so I knew one of his friends who told me where he was staying so I drove over to the hotel so that I knew for myself and sure enough there was his and her car right next to each other! I cried like a baby just hurt and sad that he would do this to me and asked myself why??? Long story short I have since stayed with him. But two events have happened and more stuff has came out about the night in the hotel. 1 his daughter says that they slept in the same bed. 2. they had reserved two seperate rooms and he choose to stay in the same hotel room and not his?? he claims nothing has happened but it has become to much for me to deal with . I broke up with him today! am I over reacting??? please help!

Rose Schowalter · Accepted Answer

No you are not over reaching, he was crossing the line WAY too many times. Forget the maggot and find someone who will treat you the right way. Good luck!! *u*

Rose Schowalter · Answer

Not at all my good man, you should insist that she makes arrangements to be home that night, even if you have to pick her up. If the issue comes up that you don’t trust her enough. Then tell her the truth. You don’t trust her, and the events she is proposing sounds ludicrous. She is planning on drinking, with and old flame, and spending the night with him. Even with an exceptionally good relationship, after slight intoxication sets in with an old flame = a recipe for major disaster. Throwing them in the same room and bed, only multiplies the chances of adultery. If I were you however, the question I’d have is not whether she is being unreasonable, but whether or not you should still be together with her. I will assure you that when ever a girlfriend of mine comes up with a scenario not unlike yours, I will seriously question her mental status. If she can’t see what she is getting into, what else won’t she think is cheating? However, if she knows what she is asking, then she is already planning to commit adultery. She is really just asking you for trust. So the question I impose to you is do you trust her so much. What ever the answer is, I trust that you now know what you must do.

Rose Schowalter · Answer

I don’t think you’re overreacting, thats a very understandable reaction to that situation. However, you should take a chance to really talk to him about that night and see what his side of the story is. It does suck that he didn’t feel the need to share that information with you, which says that he is really trying to hide something. But, I would take an opportunity to talk to him, get everything out in the open, and make sure that you made the right decision with ending the relationship. If he can’t be honest with you about going to visit his daughters and staying with his ex, then he’s not an honest guy.

Rose Schowalter · Answer

i dont know girl but i probably would have reaccted the same way. but ask ya self this question have he ever talked about his ex often has he acted strangely after or before the incident? hmmm…i know it is rough baby girl but there are just certain borders where u cross. and sleeping in the same bed with an ex when u had another reserved room for urself…thats kind of suspicious. im sorry it had to go down like that mama but ya boy’z tripping.

Rose Schowalter · Answer

Not at all! He should not have done this to you! And he should have at least told you! My boyfriend is going on a trip with his family, and the baby sitter is coming too(the baby is almost 1). But he told me that they were going to be staying in the same room. Since he told me, I don’t have a problem with it. But if he told me they were going to be sleeping in the same bed, then I would have a problem with that! But you are perfectly within your rights as a girlfriend to be mad! You did the right thing!

Rose Schowalter · Answer

He may have just wanted to be with his daughters. But if I was in that situation I probably have done the same thing because your boyfriend should have known that staying in the same room as his ex-GF could have hurt you.

Rose Schowalter · Answer

girl you know as well as i do what happend in that room with his babys momma,,, now that you know the truth,, the question is what are you going to do about it? you can stay in a unstable dishonest untrusting relationship or take a step back and look at yourself and say nope i’m too good to put up with this bull sh– and move on,,, cause sistergirl its not worth it he will allways go back and forth as long as you allow it he’s cool with it,,, cause he has the best of both worlds,,, i wish you the best.. make a wise choice cause i know your not stupid ,, and no your not over reacting,, good luck ,,,, laters

Rose Schowalter · Answer

No sweetie, you did the rite thing. He is playing a game not worth your while! Let him go play with his family. Don’t you get yourself hurt anymore over this. He does not care about your feelings. So while you are able to walk away do so before it gets to hard! There are so many GOOD man out there! Do yourself a favor get one of them. Love is a beautiful thing with the right person. TeeVee

Rose Schowalter · Answer

You are not over reacting and I think there is a huge possibility they slept together. You can do much better.

Rose Schowalter · Answer

you are reacting in a way that most women would react. i am in the EXACT same situation right now, and i left him about a week ago… it’s hard to deal with and hard to know what to believe, but trust your heart…

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