My Mom won’t acknowledge what we were previously talking/arguing about?

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For the past week, I have been asking my mom to take me to an aviary nearby. I have a strong passion for birds and plan to pursue a career involving animals in the future. I wanted to visit the aviary to interact with some of the larger bird species. At the beginning of the week, she seemed open to the idea and said maybe. However, last night, when I reminded her, she appeared reluctant and annoyed, so I stopped bringing it up. This morning, I asked her one more time, and she angrily said no. I considered dropping the subject and waiting a week or two to ask again, but about two hours later, she told me she would take me. I could tell she wasn't genuinely interested and felt it would be an inconvenience for her, so I said it was fine and that I didn't want her to take me if she didn't want to go. She became upset, said fine, and walked away. Feeling bad for upsetting her, I followed her. She mentioned that if I wanted to go, she would take me, but then added that she was tired and this was her day off. I returned to my room but still felt guilty, so I texted her to apologize and said that if she really didn't want to go, it was fine, and I wouldn't bring it up again. She replied, "I want to go to the beach tonight... you, me, and your brother?" I wasn't sure how to respond, so I just said sure. However, she hasn't mentioned going to the beach at all since then. I feel like I should just leave it be and ask her again in a few weeks, or should I try to talk to her about it?

Cornelius Franecki · Accepted Answer

It sounds like her mood is about more than not wanting to go to the aviary.  Maybe you should ask her if she is upset about something (without bringing up the aviary).  Talking about it usually helps, and it will help her to feel appreciative of you.  Just say something like, “Is there anything you want to talk about?  It seems like something might be bothering you”.  I hope this helps.  Good luck.

Rollin Gottlieb · Answer

hey…ask her when the older brother is around. He will stick up for you. maybe birds freak her out?  ask her if someone elses mom and a friend will take you. idk. don’t give up. just don’t upset her.

Anonymous · Answer

Your mom is probably tired as hell from working all week. You nagging probably isn&rsquo;t helping her. Taking you to the aviary would involve 4 trips total&hellip; dropping you off/going back home, picking you up/driving back home. Perhaps its not what she intended to do for that day. Be easy on her.

Anonymous · Answer

Your ranting was, sadly, merely evidence of immaturity.

To compound that with childhood petulance when she agreed despite her tiredness only adds to it.

You will be treated more as mature when you behave that way.

Sorry, but someone needs to say it….for your sake

By the way, there are lots of birds to be seen all around you

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