When you go to therapy, your theʀᴀᴘιsт will probably ask you if you have thoughts of hurting yourself or others. I am a nurse and it’s actually a question I have to ask each and every person that I admit to the hospital. It is really frightening to have thoughts of violence against someone, especially a parent. Thoughts can lead to action, and so I do think that therapy will help you understand why you are having these thoughts and how to deal with them. Most of the time these thoughts don’t lead to violence, but why take a chance? Our parents can really make us angry, because as we mature our job is learning how to become an adult, and some parents harp, criticize, and nag, when what one really needs is respect and understanding. It is really hard to be a parent, let me tell you! There may be true reasons why you are hating your Dad. No one is perfect, even a parent. Hating, anger, urges to do violence can be re-channeled. I myself have had "bad thoughts" about people I was angry at and even fantasized what I would do if I saw my nasty neighbor’s house on fire. Would I call the fire department or let it burn? I actually became so angry at this nasty guy, that it disturbed me and made me feel like I was a bad person for having bad thoughts. Lucky for me, I have another neighbor who is a psychiatric nurse. I phoned her and confessed my negative thoughts and she burst out laughing. She can’t stand him either and she uses him as her "meditation" . She feels that if she is able to let go of her bad thoughts about him, it will help her in every area of her life. All through your life you will have people in your life that bring out the worst in you. It’s a challenge to be able to let go of these negative feelings, but necessary to be happy. While we are experiencing anger, hatred, disgust, etc., we feel this way inside ourselves. There are ways to cope and let go of these emotions. I don’t think you will be locked up. It may give you a sense of release to admit these thoughts to someone else. A theʀᴀᴘιsт will know how best to help you....
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