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Birthday Present from First Bornby Kit PepperIn the mail today, a small silver frog—the size of a thumbnail, no card, letter, return address. Ends of the envelopetaped back to the middle—the package fitin the palm of my hand. I knew it was from youas soon as I opened it. During the first weeks you were goneI sorted through old photographsstopping always at our Bruce County campsite:coffee on the Coleman, bedding draped over branches,your tricking me—the way I’d trick my own motheroffering her a scooped out eggshell. The difference?she knew, each Sunday morning, how to thank me:praising the perfect beauty of peacock or ostrich,rare delight of giant sea turtle,my cleverness in finding such treasures.Then she’d take her knife, carefullytap off the top and call me the instigator ofmiraculous hatchings. Eliot gave his Prufrocklife measured in coffee spoons,my mother gave to me, a childhoodlaid out in egg-cups, Sunday morning rituals.I think something genetic moved through you that morningin Bruce County, on my way to the shower,as you handed me the soap container.There beside the campfire, I stopped,lifted the lid. Out sprang a little frog;landing on my chest, it left soapy webprints like footfalls on the moon. Small wonderfrogs don’t now terrify, cause me to runthe other way as I did a week before your birth,a colleague wanting to hand me a newborn—limbs bundled, scalp throbbing—not knowinghow to hold strange creatures, I fled fromthe staffroom, thinking it was a close call,not realizing then that sometimeswhat brushes us outside moves in,takes hold in other ways. You were born; I held you.In a single moment you becameair-breathing and I, losing all singularityplunged, like Demeter, into another world.Tonight, as memory and history press into this tiny shape, I’ll phonetell you the small silver froghangs from a black cord, that its webs,spread wide in the hollow of my throat, touch all words.

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As the poem’s title tells you, it’s basically about a birthday present given to a mother by her eldest child (who is now grown up and has moved out of the house). The present is a little silver frog. The speaker of the poem (the mother) reminisces about the event long ago that made frogs significant to her, and about her own relationship with her own mother as well as with this child of hers.There is a lot more to it than that, but if this helps you understand the very bare-bones narrative that’s going on here you can probably get a lot more out of it as you read it again.You might also want to look up “Demeter” in a book of Greek mythology so that you will understand why the poet has the speaker of the poem refer to her.... Show More
It s about a mother s transformative relationship with her daughter (presumably). Receiving the gift of the silver frog pendant, the speaker remembers a camping trip when her kid tricked her with a soap container containing a small frog, which jumped on her chest. It s implied that she reacted badly (probably freaking out), as the reaction is said to have been different from her own mother s reaction to the speaker s similar childhood tricks with empty eggshells. Their Sunday morning ritual was to have boiled eggs in egg cups, and the speaker would invert her empty shell in the egg cup and offer it to her mum–who then imaginatively pretended it was the egg of an interesting animal, carefully cut off the top, and pretended something wonderful was born (imagery of birth and transformation related to creative imagination as well and nurturing of a child through encouragement). The speaker was changed by her daughter such that she s no longer terrified of frogs or newborn babies (also “strange creatures” she once ran from). She s become more adventurous and embraced life more fully, it seems. The allusion to Demeter s plunge into another world (to Hades to retrieve her daughter, Persephone) relates again to dramatic change–though hopefully NOT suggesting the speaker s daughter is in a hellish place or held captive by a domineering and controlling partner! Another important change is the speaker s “losing all singularity” with her daughter s birth, probably referring to her suddenly caring for another person (her child) as much as herself and/or thinking of their lives as closely intertwined. The gift represents this close relationship which changed her from a solitary individual who was in some ways afraid of life (e.g., icky frogs and newborns). On a cord necklace and resting on her throat, the silver frog at the end also influences or transforms the speaker s words–or, implicitly, her thoughts which the words express. That s a bit more of an analysis. Cheers.... Show More

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